Monday, August 30, 2010


I meant to update earlier but oh well.

I started cramping really badly last night and right before I went to bed I started spotting. This morning AF was in full force. YAY! Although I have been miserable. Bloated and crampy with heavier than normal flow.

I scheduled the HSG for Sep 7 (CD9) because with the weekend and holiday that was the earliest they would do it.

Tomorrow morning is my sonogram and blood work. I will probably start the clomid on Weds. I have reservations about the clomid because I have heard a lot of bad things about the side effects. I also worry about it causing ovarian cysts, but I'm probably being a nervous-nelly.

On the donor front: I have been looking and saving favorites at two banks' websites for some time now. And as donors get retired or have limited vials I delete them from my favorites and rerun my search criteria. I haven't ever ordered anything because I wanted to wait until I knew what the heck was going on. These things change all the time (availability of vials, donor status etc...) and I didn't want to spend the money until I knew I needed the swimmers for sure. Well, there has been one donor that I've had my heart set on for a long time. Initially he only had a couple of vials and I figured he'd be retired before I was ready. Last night, when I re-ran my search parameters, he popped up and this time he has over 25 vials! YAY! Except there's one problem. He's CMV positive and when I looked at my blood work (yes, I made the clinic send me copies) it looks like I'm negative. Damn. It. I am confused as to how on earth I could be negative. I have had chicken pox, shingles (yes shingles, at age 27) and cold sores. It makes no sense. I REALLY want to use him but I just don't know about the risks. I mean, no one chooses their mate based on CMV status. Hell, most people don't even know what the heck it is. So is it really that big of a deal? I wouldn't be so bent on this donor, except my criteria (which is limited to open ID, hair and eye color) only gives me a whopping total of 2 donors. I have a "back up" donor picked out at another bank, but I REALLY want Mr. CMV+ and I just don't know what to do.



  1. Welcome AF.. now you can get going with this entire process. Good luck.
    You should check with your RE if it is okay to use CMV+ donor. Maybe it will be okay.

  2. Yay for AF!

    My RE told me that they those who are CMV negative stick with CMV negative donors, but that the risks were teeny-tiny, so if I'd turned out to be CMV negative, that I could still go with a CMV positive donor if I had my heart set on him. See if your RE agrees and then hopefully you can order the one you want.

  3. Glad for you that this show is finally getting on the road! Good luck with the donor choice...I had read so much about CMV positive vs negative & when I asked my RE about it he said it was such a minimal risk that I shouldn't worry about it.

  4. Finally! Yeah AF! I also asked my doctor who said basically what everyone else is saying "The risk is very minimal". Go with your gut!!

  5. YAHOO for AF!!

    Re: CMV+, I agree with the pp. My RE said the same thing - I'm CMV negative (shocking) but they said the risk was minimal if I went with a CMV positive donor because they do not have an active virus (or they wouldn't be eligible to donote). It just means they've been exposed at some point.

    Did you ask your RE about it?

  6. I didn't get a chance to. It's okay because the more I think about it and compare the first with my back-up, the more I like my back-up better. So I'm going with him, the CMV- one. No matter who I pick, I am going to have to sacrifice some criteria. It's just a question of which criteria is more important, and back-up wins.