Friday, June 21, 2013

Where have the months gone!?

Almost every night I sit down at the computer, completely wiped out and muster just enough energy to skim through my emails and read a select 2 or 3 blogs. I always think that I'll just do a quick update, but I never manage to get it done.

Tonight, like all nights, I am typing this through bleary eyes so forgive any grammatical or spelling errors and what will probably be a choppy and disorganized post. I am also over being pregnant. Mind you, it is waaaaay to early for baby girl to make her appearance and I honestly don't want her to show up until her scheduled appointment on August 1. But yeeeesssshh.

I am now 33 weeks and 2 days along and I feel HUGE. I have gained just over 30 lbs all of which is in a tight, perfectly round ball in my belly. Pic from last weekend:

I feel huge and while I know I have no right to complain about anything (because I did this to myself), I am so effing tired. My legs hurt, my back is killing me, I haven't slept for more than 2 hours at a time for weeks. I have the most gawd awful GERD that sends me shooting upright in bed in the middle of the night so I don't aspirate on or spray acid everywhere. I wake up to charleyhorses in both calves every morning and sometimes I get them in my feet which is a new experience in torture. I am either constipated or have the most horrific diarrhea, so trips to the bathroom are now an annoyance. I can't sit comfortably for longer than 5-10 minutes and I am beyond annoyed at my clothing options (lack thereof). I spend ALL FREAKING DAY hiking up my pants. I can't wear anything with a panel because I'm so round, it just rolls down and I hate having something stretched across my skin in this heat. I have no earthly clue what to do about my wardrobe issues for the court trial I have to be in starting next week. I'm getting to the point where most of my tops don't cover my belly anymore. I'm supposed to be in a suit, but a) I don't have one and don't have the time (would have to have it specially tailored to fit my size 0 ass/hips) or $$ (hundreds of dollars) to shell out for one only to wear it for such a short amount of time; b) It's been in the 90s-100s and it's too damn hot to wear a suit. Also? I DO NOT WEAR DRESSES. EVER. I do not wear open toed shoes, flip flops or sandals. I HATE feet and find exposed feet and toes, not only inappropriate in the workplace, but totally unhygienic and dirty. My legs are sticks and I have horrible varicose veins now. I also can't bend over good enough to shave safely. Yeah...I could go on and on and on about the clothing frustrations, but I will spare you.

Having a willful and stubborn 2 year old who seems to be fighting some sort of snot virus every 2-3 weeks, which he always shares with me, has made this a lot tougher than I was expecting.

My house is a disaster, I have nothing done in preparation for baby girl's arrival. The kids' room (they will share for a while) is lucky to even have furniture in it, but there is absolutely no decoration or organization to be found in it though. I just don't have the time or energy. I get the laundry done, but it never gets folded or put away. The dishwasher gets run, but the dishes never get put away and the dirty ones stay in the sink until the washer is empty and the sink is full. If social services were to visit my home, they'd probably question my ability to handle two kids :`(  I did manage to bleach out the bathtub tonight and spray the weeds in the front yard. I finally gave up mowing the yards today and had a friend's son do it. I just can't physically do it anymore. It's too much and too hot. What bothers me the most, is not being able to do things and knowing I should ask for help, but I just can't bring myself to do it. If I do imply or say something about maybe having some help with something, my mom, who is short on empathy and understanding, loves to twist that little thorn and say things like, "Well, I don't know how I managed with you and being pregnant with your sister. We all managed somehow, so can you." Which always makes me want to scream, "You didn't have to EVERYTHING and do it alone and work 50+ hours a week!" Which I know would lead to retorts about why didn't I just find a man and get married, which would then lead me to say something snide back about how my dad is a saint for putting up with her and yadda yadda yadda and feelings would get hurt (always mine) and nothing gets accomplished and I feel even more worthless and down about not being able to do everything.

That brings me to the panic about being able to manage two on my own. It's in full force. I try to remember that I won't be feeling this physically miserable and trying to handle them both. There will come a time when I will be able to bend over, carry things and pick things up. I will get back to being physically capable again. I will not be pregnant forever and that time is coming up quickly. VERY quickly. Like in 6 weeks at the latest. Probably earlier. OMG.

And now I need to go eat something.

Oh, and if one more person asks if I've thought about names, I AM GOING TO STRANGLE THEM. That has become a huge peeve of mine. I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it does. For the record, I am not discussing names with ANYONE. I just don't feel like it. So there.


  1. Your almost there!!! Have you thought about hiring a cleaning service? Even if they just came to help once (or even once a month) it would be a major help. I think many of us SMCs are bad about asking for help, we feel like we have to prove ourselves even more.

  2. I have thought about it and planned to once I get my house unpacked from moving in (last September!) and somewhat organized. It's hard to clean when it's in such disarray. Unfortunately, at work we've been told that this coming fiscal year (starting Oct) we will be furloughed one day a pay period. This is going to seriously hurt me financially and I'm going to probably have to give up some "luxuries" like a house cleaner & lawn mower to be able to continue paying the outrageous costs of daycare for two kids. My work days will decrease, but they don't prorate daycare. It's full-time, or part-time, but nothing in between.

  3. So, names? Ha! Just kidding!!!! Things sound pretty rough right now. Hang in there, you'll make it. Plus you look great! Nice photo

  4. Oh, you sound so miserable. Such a hard time of the year to be so pregnant.

    It's hard enough for us to ask for help as it is, but with that attitude of your moms? Ugh. I hope you can find someone to help you out! I wish there was something I could do.

  5. I'm so sorry things are so difficult lately. My baby was born last year on August 7th (your due date, I think!), so I know what it's like to be very pregnant in the summer - just not with a 2-year-old to take care of, too. It sucks, so you have every right to complain!

    Ask for help. Do it. It'll be worth it, and you'll be glad you did!

    And hang in there. There really IS an end in sight!

  6. I wish you nothing but the best. By the way I feel the same way you do about feet....mine are small and ugly...anyway.
    All the best to you 3.
    By the way I think you look and blush here.

  7. Love your pregnancy shot! I'm due in a week and have a 2 2/1 year old. Also hate that I can't ask for help because I get thrown the "if you had a husband" line. And the sleeping is the worst. It's 3:23am now and I'm reading blogs so that may give you an idea. I only shut my light at midnight. Have you tried upping your fluid intake at night to ward off leg cramps? And how are those names coming? Lol. My two will also share a room after he moves out of the bassinet in my room. Looking forward to raising our two kids tandomly

  8. Hi, I found your blog while looking for someone else's. I'm also an SMC but through adoption (after 8 failed IUIs), and I can't lie, I'm excited about being able to T42 without the physical issues of being pregnant. :)

    I can also commiserate with the mom comments. When I refinished an old rocking chair, my mom said, "I never used a rocker with any of you kids." When I mentioned using a sleep sack for safety, she said, "Every baby I've ever known has been able to just push blankets off their face." And after every monthly appt my son's first year, she'd ask, "What did the doctor say about his head?" Since he had a slight flat spot due to sleeping in his back. There was nothing wrong with his head, and I never thought there was. But that didn't stop her from bringing it up.

    Lord help me if I turn into her! :)